QUESTION: Do you
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Rarely |
Sometimes |
Frequently |
Only
date men - even once - who meet your physical, financial
or educational standards? |
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Ask men out on
dates if you're interested, just to get the ball rolling? |
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Believe you would
attract the right man if you were prettier, younger, thinner,
etc? |
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Think marriage
is too dangerous these days because so many people get divorced? |
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Find that either
your work, friendships or hobbies are unfulfilling? |
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Stay in relationships
whether they're headed towards marriage or not? |
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Secretly believe
that you're smarter than the men you date? |
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Regret that you
broke up or divorced a certain man or men? |
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Believe you have
to sacrifice things you like when you get married? |
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Have sex with
a man before he commits to you exclusively? |
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Show affection
for a man by doing helpful things for him, such as running
his errands, cleaning his apartment or writing his resume? |
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Have a hard time
finding a man you can trust? |
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Go for long periods
without getting approached by a man for a date? |
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Like to develop
a friendship before you start dating someone? |
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Feel more confident
in a work setting than you do in the dating arena? |
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Laugh with your
friends at jokes about how immature or lazy men are? |
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Mistrust your
intuition in picking a romantic partner because it's
let you down so many times before? |
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Hear yourself
dismissing compliments (i.e., this dress is so old) or refusing
gifts (you shouldn't have! It's too expensive.)? |
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Suspect good guys
are boring? |
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Offer to pay your
share on a date? |
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What Does
Your Score Mean?
35 Or Less
You're Standing in Your Own Way
You want to meet the man who's right for you, but you're
unwittingly fending him off because you're afraid of disappointment.
You deserve to have a man who adores you and wants to make
you happy, so help him get close to you by receiving graciously,
making yourself available, practicing better self-care and
getting rid of the ex-boyfriends who are still cluttering
up your dating space. Yes, you've had a broken heartor two,
but you can leave your ivory tower and still protect yourself.
You'll never get the relationship you crave any other way.
36 To 60
Are You Comfortable on that Fence?
You don't like to feel vulnerable, but you're not completely
zipped up in armor either. If you're unattached, men notice
you and flirt with you, and that's when you really get nervous.
The man who's right for you will either need a good pair
of running shoes if he's going to catch you, or you could
practice standing still. Consider accepting dates liberally
and think of them as practice for the dating season.
If you're in a relationship, you may be sending
out mixed messages that make him wonder if you'll stick
around. Make a point to receive gifts and compliments graciously,
expressing your desires and listening to your intuition.
Relax when you're tempted to take charge, and you'll stay
out of trouble. Surrendering really will help you find the
relationship you always dreamed you would have.
61 and Up
It Won't Be Long
You have an attractive, feminine style that men recognize
and respond to immediately. Either you're already in a relationship
with a great guy, or you'll meet him by the time you finish
reading this paragraph. You're willing to risk your heart,
but you're putting the odds in your favor by setting your
limits and letting him take the lead. There's nothing to
stop you from having a passionate, intimate romance. |
