QUESTION: Do you
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Rarely |
Sometimes |
Frequently |
Only
date men - even once - who meet your physical, financial
or educational standards? |
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Ask men out on
dates if you're interested, just to get the ball rolling? |
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Believe you would
attract the right man if you were prettier, younger, thinner,
etc? |
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Think marriage is
too dangerous these days because so many people get divorced? |
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Find that either
your work, friendships or hobbies are unfulfilling? |
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Stay in relationships
whether they're headed towards marriage or not? |
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Secretly believe
that you're smarter than the men you date? |
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Regret that you
broke up or divorced a certain man or men? |
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Believe you have
to sacrifice things you like when you get married? |
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Have sex with a
man before he commits to you exclusively? |
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Show affection for
a man by doing helpful things for him, such as running his
errands, cleaning his apartment or writing his resume? |
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Have a hard time
finding a man you can trust? |
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Go for long periods
without getting approached by a man for a date? |
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Like to develop
a friendship before you start dating someone? |
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Feel more confident
in a work setting than you do in the dating arena? |
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Laugh with your
friends at jokes about how immature or lazy men are? |
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Mistrust your
intuition in picking a romantic partner because it's
let you down so many times before? |
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Hear yourself
dismissing compliments (i.e., this dress is so old) or
refusing gifts (you shouldn't have! It's too expensive.)? |
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Suspect good guys
are boring? |
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Offer to pay your
share on a date? |
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What
Does Your Score Mean?
35 Or Less
You're Standing in Your Own Way
You want to meet the man who's right for you, but you're
unwittingly fending him off because you're afraid of
disappointment. You deserve to have a man who adores
you and wants to make you happy, so help him get close
to you by receiving graciously, making yourself available,
practicing better self-care and getting rid of the ex-boyfriends
who are still cluttering up your dating space. Yes, you've
had a broken heartor two, but you can leave your ivory
tower and still protect yourself. You'll never get the
relationship you crave any other way.
36 To 60
Are You Comfortable on that Fence?
You don't like to feel vulnerable, but you're not completely
zipped up in armor either. If you're unattached, men
notice you and flirt with you, and that's when you really
get nervous. The man who's right for you will either
need a good pair of running shoes if he's going to catch
you, or you could practice standing still. Consider accepting
dates liberally and think of them as practice for the
dating season.
If you're in a relationship, you may be sending out mixed
messages that make him wonder if you'll stick around. Make
a point to receive gifts and compliments graciously, expressing
your desires and listening to your intuition. Relax when
you're tempted to take charge, and you'll stay out of trouble.
Surrendering really will help you find the relationship
you always dreamed you would have.
61 and Up
It Won't Be Long
You have an attractive, feminine style that men recognize and respond to immediately.
Either you're already in a relationship with a great guy, or you'll meet him
by the time you finish reading this paragraph. You're willing to risk your
heart, but you're putting the odds in your favor by setting your limits and
letting him take the lead. There's nothing to stop you from having a passionate,
intimate romance.
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